Archive for June, 2014

Survey Confirms Men Are Always Wrong
but Access Consciousness® Has a Way to Change That!

(and Other Aspects of Relationships)

One of the consequences of the women’s movement is that it’s destroyed most of the roles men knew they could count on in their lives, Gary Douglas, founder of Access Consciousness® has observed.  The definitions and expectations of men are so unclear that men are left wondering exactly what they should be and do.

This societal-wide change has made relationships between the sexes more difficult. A recent survey of 1000 adults in Britain, published this month in the British newspaper the Daily Mail, has confirmed and even quantified this.

The things that men do poorly, according to the survey, include buying clothes for women, remembering anniversaries and birthdays, dancing, ironing, cooking, domestic shores, buying gifts, multi-tasking, keeping up with fashion, and picking furniture.  Less than 10 per cent of women thought men could iron a shirt and only 4 per cent said they could dance.

Men’s value has not been totally eroded, from the viewpoint of these contemporary women.  Sixty per cent of them rated men at good of getting rid of spiders.  Fifty six per cent rated them better than women at barbecue skills (not the most useful skill considering British weather) and 73 per cent rated them competent at changing tires.

While women still rated men as good at home improvement projects—called DIY or Do It Yourself in Britain—almost half the men reported that they had hurt themselves while doing them.

Is there any hope?  Can this be changed?  Should men be used as sperm donors, tire changers and spider killers and then sent out to pasture?

The way out, as Douglas so often has found, is in taking an entirely different point of view.  The Daily Mail aligns and agrees with the point of view of most women that men are useless.  Is that true, or is it a judgment which limits both women and men from perceiving and receiving what men’s contributions can actually be?

All judgments, as well as decisions and conclusions, limit what we can perceive and receive to only the aspects of reality that agree and reinforce our fixed points of view.  The Daily Mail article, which was titled, “Yes, men are good for nothing!” brilliantly expresses the prevailing point of view of women in this reality.  But does having that point of view, or women having that point of view about men, actually serve either women or men?  Does it contribute anything but discord and discontent to relationships between the sexes? Or does the assumption that if the tree falls in the forest and no one hears it, but the man is still wrong, contribute to the destruction of the possibility of intimacy, caring, and nurturing between the sexes?

The key to getting out of this trap that judgment creates is getting out of judgment.  The way out of judgment is to recognize no point of view is right or wrong, or good or bad, but merely an interesting point of view.  This applies to other’s points of view, but it is most useful to apply to our own.

What if women were to question the very small corner into which they have painted men and into which men have allowed themselves to be painted?  What if we were to use questions in relationships between the sexes instead of assumptions, conclusions and judgments?

Some questions that could be useful could be to ask, “What contribution can I be to this person’s life?” and “What contribution am I willing to receive from him/her?”  If you wished to be really honest with yourself, you could also look at “What contributions am I refusing from this person?”

What if men, far from being as useless as most women assume they are, are really almost dying to be a contribution to the lives of women they love—if only women will receive them?

And men could ask themselves, “What if there were nothing wrong with me?”  That would certainly fly in the face of the assumptions the Daily Mail article so succinctly presents.  We tend to diminish ourselves and the value of the gifts and contributions we are when we attempt to give them to others, only to have them refused or not received.  If men could realize that women’s refusing of their gifts was a reflection of the women’s judgments, not a wrongness in them, what wounds could be healed?

Gary Douglas, best selling author and founder of Access Consciousness®, is the author of two books and numerous recorded classes on the relationships between the sexes and changing the paradigms of this reality.

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You create your body and your life from judgment. You judge to keep things/people in your life and you then have to create a new judgment to get rid of them. Please give up creating from judgment. There is another choice!

Make a demand for something change and be willing to do whatever it takes. Don’t ask from the place of decision or judgment because then you are asking for an end; a result (I demand to lose 20lbs now!) Demand for something to begin. (OK enough – what will it take for something to change with my body shape).

Awareness is created with gratitude. Gratitude allows you to be perceive, know, be and receive as oneness. Joy creates consciousness and expands awareness.

When you are not happy with your life or your body, you set stops in motion (disasters) to get you to change direction. Then when you DO change direction, it’s like stopping the Titanic – some of the disasters and train wrecks will still manifest before the new possibilities show up.

Be in allowance – be in the question.

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What are essential oils?
Sometimes called the “life force” of a plant, therapeutic grade essential oils are very complex. They are stored in special cells, ducts or glandular hairs that are distributed among the flowers, leaves, bark, stems and roots of a plant. These oils protect the plant from insects and other herbivores, from bacteria, molds, fungi and other micro-organisms. They also help to heal inflicted wounds. These unique characteristics make essential oils highly beneficial to humans. A single oil may contain hundreds of constituents that are molecularly aligned in exactly the right manner to trigger a number of responses in the human body. Essential oils are used by chiropractors, aromatherapists, reflexologists, massage therapists and others interested in alternatives to prescription drugs.


What is aromatherapy?
It is the use of therapeutic grade essential oils to affect mood and promote natural healing. Some people buy various oils but rarely use them because they don’t know how. This website will help change that by showing the various ways essential oils can be used in natural healing. How many times have you had a situation where you didn’t know what oil to use? In the past, you had to pull out a book or ask friends. Now you can use our basic keyword search to assist you. Chances are good that others have experienced the same types of situations that you have.

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Natural Household Solutions

Tessa Brauer is a Young Living Distributor 48482

Don’t think that essential oils can only be used for aromatherapy or massage therapy—they have so much more to offer!


While going about your daily household tasks you’ve probably stopped to consider the effects of artificial flavoring in foods or the synthetic compounds in your household cleaner. More than likely you’ve wondered if these mystery ingredients are even safe to use in your home.


Essential oils can eliminate these concerns when you incorporate them into your daily household routine. Replacing man-made synthetics with natural, plant-based essential oils removes questionable ingredients from your home and adds countless benefits. Whether you use essential oils to infuse your favorite dishes with flavor, clean your home without harmful chemicals, or supplement your existing first-aid kit with plant-based solutions, they’re sure to safely and naturally enhance your experience.


In the Cooking with Essential Oils section, learn the difference between common vegetable oils—olive, flax, sesame, canola—and essential oils, as well as some of the best essential oils for flavoring your favorite dishes!


If you want to know which harmful synthetics are in your home, the Cleaning with Essential Oils section will teach you which chemicals—known to cause everything from skin to ovarian cancer—are in products you use every day and which essential oils and oil-infused products can replace them.


Every home should have a first-aid kit, and in the Essential Oils and First Aid section, learn which essential oils are good natural complements to your existing kit.


And to make your transition to essential oil cooking seamless, Young Living also offers a selection of top-of-the-line titanium cookware. Discover why your cookware makes a difference in the Cookware section.

Tessa Brauer is a Young Living Distributor 48482

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Tip—Natural Shower

“I dislike the chemicals in the shower sprays available in most stores. But it’s Thieves® Household Cleaner to the rescue! I now dilute Thieves cleaner (according to the glass cleaner recommendation) in a spray bottle and confidently saturate my wet shower with the solution without holding my breath and racing out of the bathroom after spraying. It really works!”


Wolfberry Salad

  • 8 slices of vegetarian bacon
  • ½ red onion, sliced
  • 1 c. slivered almonds
  • 3 small-medium sized heads of broccoli, chopped
  • 1 ½ c. dried wolfberries
  • ¼ c. Blue Agave
  • ¼ c. vinegar
  • ¾ c. mayonnaise
  • Salt and pepper

Cook vegetarian bacon as directed on packaging. Allow to cool and then crumble. Put sliced onion, bacon, almonds, broccoli, and wolfberries in a bowl. In a Young Living Blender Bottle, place agave, vinegar, and mayonnaise and shake until well mixed. Pour over salad mixture and toss. Chill and serve.

NingXia Red Sorbet

  • ½ c. water
  • ¼ c. agave
  • 2 c. NingXia Red®
  • 2 12-oz. bags frozen raspberries
  • 1 orange

In a small sauce pan, simmer Blue Agave and water for 1–2 minutes or until agave mixes easily with the water. Set aside to cool slightly. In a blender, puree NingXia Red and one bag of raspberries. Transfer mixture into a metal bowl and stir in the zest of half the orange. Next, squeeze half the orange into the mixture. Place agave and water mixture into blender along with the remaining bag of raspberries and puree. If mixture becomes too thick, simply add a cup of the mixture in the bowl. Pour into bowl and fold in until well mixed. Place in freezer and freeze for two hours. Serves 12–15.




  • 1 c. dried cranberries
  • 2 large eggs
  • ½ c. fresh orange juice
  • 2 c. rice flour
  • ¼ c Young Living Blue Agave
  • 2 tsp. baking powder
  • 1 tsp. grated orange zest
  • ¼ tsp. fine salt
  • 6 drops Young Living orange essential oil
  • ½ c. almond milk
  • ½ c. butter

Preheat the oven to 375 degrees F. In a saucepan, combine the cranberries and orange juice and bring to a simmer over medium heat. Turn off heat and let cool. With an electric mixer, mix agave, orange zest, orange oil and butter until smooth. Add eggs and mix well. Fold in 1 cup of flour, baking powder, and salt. Next, stir in milk and add remaining cup of flour. Gently fold cranberries into mixture. Lightly coat a 12-muffin tin with butter or line with paper baking cups. Put a heaping tablespoon into each tin/cup. Bake for about 10–15 minutes or until just barely golden brown. Serve warm with agave-butter. Makes 24.




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Blessing you BIGGER than I 'Know' how,

Tessa Red roseBrauer, LMT






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When you ask your body a question, listen for the awareness – not the answer.  An answer feels like a solidity; it’s based on everyone else’s point of view.  The awareness is an expansive universe that creates more ease for you and your body.  You’ve got to be willing to listen.  You might ask, “What would it take for me to have the awareness?”

People don’t ask questions because they’re unwilling to be ambiguous.  As long as you’re unwilling to be ambiguous, you aren’t able to ask questions.  A great deal of what we think we like has more to do with other people’s reality than our own, because we’re not willing to be ambiguous about what we like.  If you have absolutely no fixed point of view, you have total choice.  But as long as you have an ounce of fixed point of view, you have no choice.’    Right Body for You by Gary Douglas


So what is the difference between awareness and answers?

Could it be ….awareness is non-cognitive.

Answers are cognitive. We are taught in this reality to look for the right or wrong…good or bad…the yes or no.  What if the Body does not understand the cognitive yes and no? What if this is THE key to your communion and embodiment of joy, peace and calmness?

For me and my precious Body it is such a space of joy to gather with other Bodies and Beings in the Access Consciousness Body Process classes. As the Bodies bring their Beings to these classes, we all co-create a spaciousness for both Body and Being and sharing these energies…non-cognitive energies that Bodies have so been desiring to attain balance and joy within. To see the Bodies emerge from these classes with an energetic glow and confidence and expansion. For me it is such a blessing!

Blessing you BIGGER than I ‘Know’ how,

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A Note from Melissa
Universal Consciousness Knows Itself Through You

We tend to perceive change as being something that is threatening because it feels uncertain, and it feels out of control. Change does not have to be difficult.  Life does not have to be a struggle.  You are never stuck.  Options are always available to you.  All of the information that you have ever needed, could ever need, or will ever need is available to you in this infinite library of resources that is boundaryless, limitless, and constantly expanding.  That is that which is the field of the heart; that is that which is you; that is that which is universal consciousness referencing itself through you in order to know itself more expansively.

Melissa Sig
Melissa Joy

From Into The Matrix: Guides, Grace, and the Field of the Heart


A Note from Richard

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A Matrix Energetics session with Melissa or me is not necessary to achieve wondrous results. Each Certified Practitioner listed on the Matrix Energetics website is personally trained and certified by Melissa and me. Visit the website to find a Certified Practitioner that resonates best with you! 



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Matrix Energetics in action. “Physics is cool if you make it cool.”

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Do you consider you’re addicted to something? Has someone told you you are? What is that for you? Food, drugs, alcohol, sex, work, helping people, the wrongness of you, or something else? What does addiction mean to you? That’s you’re powerless to overcome it without submitting to a higher authority? That you will never overcome it and it will always control you? That it’s a physical condition, an allergy and the only solution is a long, slow process and complete abstinence? That you are bad, wrong or a failure for having it What if addiction wasn’t what you thought it was? If you’ve tried everything and would like to find out what else is possible, start by asking yourself “What if addiction wasn’t a disease?” What else is possible? That depends on you. How much change would you like? Visit The Bradford System of Right Recovery for more information about how to choose for you.

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